Posts Tagged ‘Self Improvement’

Are you also guilty of this sin?

Monday, February 8th, 2010

Many people are doing this, and I wanted to know if you are doing it too.

Their hard drive is full of ebooks they have downloaded. Self improvement products, marketing products, you name it.

Some they bought, others they got for free. What all of these products have in common is that they have never been used. Some may only have been used half-heartedly, others not at all.

Yet, whenever a new product comes out that promises to change your life, you want it too. What for, to put it on your hard drive?

The reason I’m telling you this is because it’s somethhing that I used to do, and I know many people do it too.

If you’re guilty of it as well, then I want to tell you this. Your life will only change once you use, really use the product the way the creator intended it. Consider this. There may be some products that you decided isn’t working. Could it be that you just didn’t use it properly?

So, before you rush out, looking for the next best thing, look on your hard drive. There may be something lying there that is the same or even better than what you’re planning to buy.

just thought I should let you know

Are You Afraid to Go Into the Water?

Tuesday, November 25th, 2008

Even though I grew up on one of the Great Lakes, I did not learn to swim as a child. My wife, who is a good swimmer, and I made sure our children learned to swim. My own efforts have been hampered by something I had not counted on–fear of the water. My own fear has been aided by a few adult attempts at swimming that ended in helpless flailing in water over my head and needing to be rescued from drowning. I have come to realize it is not water I am afraid of. I drink water. I bathe and play in water. My fear is based on my lack of knowledge of how to move myself successfully through water, no matter whether it is over my head or not.

I am learning to swim because I want the health benefits of exercising in the water. I want that enough to overcome the lack of knowledge that has held me back all my life. I had to identify the specific benefit I wanted and to decide I want it enough to acquire the knowledge I need to overcome my old fear. That sounds simple, and it is, but it is not easy.

I talk with people all the time who have not learned how to successfully launch their own business. Some of these people tell me they are afraid of the
internet. I can understand that. The internet can be frightening, especially for those of us who grew up before it was a normal part of learning.

Others tell me they afraid of all the predators out there whose only goal is to separate us from our money. I have spoken to people who tearfully tell me they feel like failures because everyone seems able to make a success out of an online business but them. The more people I talk with who express
these frustrations, the more certain things keep standing out in my mind.

When I ask people why they want to start a business, the number one answer I get is to make money. I have been studying entrepreneurship for more than twenty years. Every author or speaker who seems to grasp the subject says the same thing. Money cannot be the primary goal of any business venture in which you want to be successful. It does not identify a primary need in anyone’s life and does not provide sufficient motivation to gain the knowledge and do the work required to acquire and maintain lasting wealth.

I did not begin to learn to swim as an adult until I realized that what I wanted was the satisfaction of doing part of my exercise program in the water. I
want the exercise to help me gain and maintain good health as far into my life as I can. Therefore, swimming is a way to gain and keep good health. That
is what I want. Swimming is a way to get that. That provides sufficient motivation to get me over my fear of water.

Asking yourself what you really want from your own business is so important, it can’t be treated too lightly. It isn’t money, a new house, a new car. It isn’t even freedom from a job. Those are benefits, and they are important, but they will not motivate you to learn and do what you need to acquire and maintain the wealth you are seeking. What you do want will guide you in selecting what type of business you will begin.

You may have to overcome things like fear of the internet, anxiety about the people out there who want to take advantage of you, fear that you will make mistakes. All of these may happen. These are some of the reasons most people who start this journey do not finish.

I want to help you find and achieve your dream. That is one of the things I came to realize as I struggled with the same things you may be facing. I like working things out, sorting through all the things that keep people from succeeding to point the way to the choices that can open the doors for you and others to achieve your dreams. I like teaching, and I like communicating. Teachers seek knowledge so they can share it with others. That is why I am working to develop a place where you and others can find what your real motivation is and then look for the information that will give you the knowledge to fulfill your dreams.

It is exciting because there are some really good people doing some really great things. It makes sorting through the rest worthwhile. I welcome you to this journey to find your dream and then find the ways you will reach your dream. I am interested in how the journey goes for you, and I will offer whatever help and guidance I can. Thanks for sharing a part of your journey with me.

David Bloom
http://dgbloom.com

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Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

Monday, September 22nd, 2008

Why do bad things happen to good people.

I believe that everything happens for a reason and there is a hidden purpose behind it all. What may seem to most human beings as chaos or as a crisis is in fact a calculated event.

The Universe is always responding to our deepest desires. But instead of taking us there directly in an instant, it takes us through various experiences in order to prepare us for what we want. Why? Because the Universe requires that we become that which we want first, before we can have it.

For example, if my deepest desire is to be a multi-millionaire or billionaire the Universe will start responding to that desire by giving me opportunities to become a millionaire or billionaire. When I say become, I mean that you should take on the characteristics of a millionaire.

 For one, millionaires are tough people who don’t take no for an answer. They are brave and courageous individuals who will do whatever it takes to make their dreams come true. Millionaires and billionaires are focussed on what they want and don’t waste time and energy on unecessary things.

Now lets face it, most people who dream of becoming very wealthy are just the opposite when they start out. They are indecisive, fearful, hesitant and complain a lot about everything and everyone.

So things will start happening in your life that will seem harsh and unfair. Those who who are destined to become very wealthy will use these experiences to grow into millionaires and billionaires. For those who were not meant to be they will unfortunately not recognise the gift in what they are going through and will remain where they are or go backwards.

At the end the day, we all have choices to make. And it is these choices we make that will determine whether we make it or not. I am also faced with these choices and there was a time when I complained and asked why these bad things were happening to me. I would get angry and frustrated and the result was that I didn’t make any progress.

Fortunately for me I learned from others and from their experiences and decided to change. There is a well-known saying. If you keep on doing what you have been doing, you will continue to get what you have been getting. Only you know what you have been doing and what results you have been getting.

However, things can change and you can get different results, but only if you start doing things differently. Especially those things that scare you.

One book that has inspired me tremendously is Sasha Xarrian’s Outrageous Mastery.

If you want someone who will help you achive your goals by keeping you accountable on a week by week basis, then I suggest you take advantage of Gary Ryan Blair’s Start Fast Finish Strong 100 Day Challenge. I took this challenge last year and I can wholeheartedly recommend it.

How Expectations Become Outcomes!

Tuesday, September 16th, 2008

We attract what we expect, period.

Remember the time you went to attend an interview and you were confident you would do well. And guess what happened; you aced that interview!

And again there were times you were less than confident about an exam or some other meeting, and again, the opposite happened – it didn’t go so well!

When you expect success, you get success; on the other hand, if you expect failure or expect bad things to happen to you, that is also what you will get.

If you believe certain things about a certain person, they will act in that way or something will happen to make you think they are responsible for it. This in turn reinforces your belief that this person is a certain way or did what you suspect them of doing. Only, it may not be true.

But it wasn’t always like this was it? Were we always predisposed to expect the one or the other, or is there something that happened to us along the way?

When we were born we were not predisposed to any side. What we had was pure potential to expect anything, to be anything, to have anything.

However when we came into our human experience we joined pre-existing situations or our arrival created a situation. And exactly how that situation unfolds; in other words, how the people who share your earliest experience interact with each other and with you will determine how you will eventually be predisposed.

A loving, nurturing environment with lots of encouragement and support will make you believe that the entire human experience is like that. The result is that you begin to expect this in all your interactions. Even if in your later life you come across people who are not as loving or as supportive you will continue to view the world as good and expect good experiences to come your way.

The opposite is true for someone who is born into situation that is less positive. Examples I can think of here are children who are born to people who are not exactly thrilled that it came into the world such as the result of a teenage pregnancy or another unplanned pregnancy. When your first experiences of the world are negative, you tend to begin to view the world as such. And as you start to expect negative experiences, you can’t help but attract them.

It is the law of attraction at work – Like attracts like.

So does this mean that you are doomed to always attract a certain type of experience? By no means!

Even if you are currently predisposed to expect good things or bad things, you always have the power to choose something else.

However changes should not only occur on the conscious level, they should also happen on the subconscious level. Even though you have made a conscious decision to expect only good things, you’ll find that you will unconsciously still expect bad things to happen which will unfortunately come to pass.

There are various ways in which you can do this including, doing affirmations and visualization on your own. The problem with just doing visualizations and affirmations without any aid is that you will encounter resistance from your conscious mind.

Being in a deep meditative state when you do visualization and affirmations help. This is because you’re able to bypass the conscious mind and hence ensures that the new programming reach the subconscious.

There is a little known way to change your programming and attract the things you want. And when you see how easy it is to attract positive things, you will start to expect more positive things, hence attracting even more good things to flow your way.

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What is Success and How Do We Achieve It?

Thursday, July 17th, 2008

There is often so much confusion about what success is. Hopefully this very well written article will help it clear up for you.


To be clear about what success is must be the first step to achieving success.

So far, the best definition I have come across is: “Success is the completion of anything intended.” In other words success is finishing what you planned to do.

Even robbing a bank is a kind of success if that is what you wished to do. However, you probably did not intend to end up in prison!

The above definition of success shines a light on failure and success. Make a plan and follow it and you will have succeeded. Make a plan and do not follow it and you will have failed.

This gives a yard stick for judging every day of our lives. We can say at the end of the day “I have failed” or “I have succeeded.”

This may seem very obvious but it is amazing that only about 85% of the human race end up doing what they intended.

I asked several people what they thought success was. One person said that “Success is making loads of money.” Another said that success is “Achieving your goals”. Some one else said that success is “Fulfilling your potential”. An interesting answer was that success is “Making others jealous”.

Brian Tracy agrees with the connection between success and goals. He has said “Success is goals, and all else is commentary.” Tracy believes that people with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them.

Stuart Goldsmith in “The Midas Method” has an important section on how to set goals so that they are achieved using the full power of the subconscious mind.

Maria Nemeth gives this definition of success: “Doing what you said you would do, with ease”.

“Doing what you said you would do” is currently not achieved by the majority of the human race especially politicians! Doing it with ease is achieved by even fewer and requires making the most of the subconscious mind.

Jim Rohn argues that success is just a few simple disciplines practised daily.

The power of daily discipline is HUGE. Because the discipline is practised daily the effect is cumulative. The good practice is carried out 365 times a year with, perhaps, a few lapses.

It cannot fail to have tremendous influence. Once the discipline becomes a daily habit, it can be forgotten about until the rewards start coming in.

The writer who writes every day has written well over 300 pages by the end of the year. If he or she does not write every day they lose momentum and inspiration. If they keep up the writing (even just a few words a day) a magnet for relevant thoughts develops.

Recently a Liverpool student of American media studies applied for 600 jobs and received only one interview which he failed. He decided to write a novel. He determined to complete ten pages a day. He worked in the evenings at a dead end job to make money and then wrote until about 5 in the morning at his novel which has now become famous. It also looks like becoming a Hollywood blockbuster film.

He points out that if you write only one page a day for 100 days you can write a screen play. He wrote his novel by studying the structure of two other novels and noticing how they were structured and wrote his screenplay after studying video of films and noticing how long each scene lasted before there was a change.

I can’t remember his name or the name of his book as I just happened to hear part of his interview on television.

The practice of daily disciplines alone can change our lives totally. Another benefit of daily disciplines is that they quickly create habits and habits create character.

A great quote by Jim Ryun, the American Athlete, is as follows

“Motivation is what gets you started.
Habit is what keeps you going”

Another brilliant quote is:

“Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.”

Albert Einstein

The next quote says more or less the same thing:

“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.” Henry David Thoreau

Many would argue that success is not about making money but about developing oneself into a person who is valuable to others.

However, this quite often will lead to making money because people will pay for value. Any one who is very good at their job can usually command whatever pay they wish.

Adam Hollioake is one of the most successful English county cricket captains. He realised what is important in life when his brother Ben was killed in a car accident in Perth Australia. Adam learned that he should be kind to people and have fun and “that’s what life is about.”

His view of success in cricket is not necessarily winning. He is not afraid to lose a cricket match. He is only concerned that his team put 100% effort into the game. He comments:

“If we do put that effort in we usually win anyway”.

Success then is putting in 100% effort whatever the results. More often than not, however, the results will be excellent.

Michael Angier has a great definition of success.

“Success is the result of steadily taking action on our most important goals. When we consistently focus our energies and our efforts upon what matters most, we can’t help but be successful”.

Angier also admires Ralph Waldo Emerson’s comments on success:

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; this is to have succeeded.”

What are the causes of failure and success?

William James, the great American psychologist, puts failure down to lack of faith in one self

“There is but one cause of human failure. And that is man’s lack of faith in his true self.”

Faith in one self is a huge part of success. Stuart Goldsmith in “The Midas Method” talks about two kinds of belief that are necessary for success. You must believe that you deserve to succeed and you must believe that you have the ability to succeed.

Another big cause of success is discipline.

“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success.” Brian Tracy

Another cause is the willingness to try to succeed even if the possiblity of success is remote.

“Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty, believe in them and try to follow where they lead.”

Louisa May Alcott (1832-1888) American Writer

My computer guru, Danny believes that you should hold on to your dream in all circumstances and never let go. Grab hold of your vision with an iron fist and even if you are down on your luck and in the gutter never give up.

Danny himself has held on to a dream for 22 years. His dream is to develop the best languages translator in the world.

It does not matter if you are 72 – grab hold of your dream. Actually visualize your hand holding on to that dream. Too many people are worn down by life and give up their dreams.

Every dream is personal but the principle is the same. You are an idiot if you let go. You have to have a reason for living. Set yourself a goal and never let go until you die.

There is nothing you can’t do. If you can’t swim 10 lengths without a rest, train for a few months and you will be able to swim 50 lengths.

Danny’s comments about swimming reminded me about how little is taught at school about how training can improve your abilities.

At my school in the Isle of Man, there was an annual half mile swim in the sea. I knew I would drown if I attempted this but no one ever suggested that I start training hard so that I would be capable of completing the swim.

I was just classified as someone who could not do the swim. It did not occur to me that through determined training I would be able to do what I could not previously do.

When Danny was young he was a skinny weakling. But one day he decided that this was not a good thing. He filled out and did some weight training and set up his own fitness, strength and flexibility routine.

He performs this every other day. This avoids the boredom of a daily routine. He does 200 situps, 30-50 leg raises and three or four sets of 20-30 bench presses.

He also does 2 sets of 20 or 30 squats with dumbells to develop leg power. The dumbbells avoid the danger of overbalancing with a barbell across your shoulders. There is also little likelihood that you will drop the dumbbells on children or family pets! Dumbells allow for greater control than barbells.

Danny’s advice for success is to do something. If in doubt, read a book. The worst thing you can do is sit on your backside watching TV. If you do, nothing will ever happen. He notes the hypnotic effect of TV on the spectators. Danny seldom ever watches TV.

Danny also is impressed by Arnold Schwarzenegger who has just been elected Governor of California. If Arnold wants something, he does what is necessary to get that thing. If he had to eat 50 mars bars, he would eat them. If he had to stand stark naked on his head in a field for half an hour he would.

This is an example to us all. If you have to put stamps on thousands of envelopes to send out your direct mail sales letters, you just have to do it.

The basic principle is that you have to do what is required. Some things require certain actions to achieve them and you have to do them whether you like doing them or not.

It is no good saying I want to be Governor of California but I don’t want to do any public speaking or travel on the campaign trail or be friendly to thousands of people you don’t like. You have to pick up babies and smile at people you may not like.

If you want to be rich you have to do those things which will make you rich. It’s no good saying “I don’t really want to do it.” Danny gives himself a virtual smack round the head every time he is tempted to give up on his projects.

Some people think they will make money by taking short cuts like suing people or fraud. The world would be a much better place if people just got on with doing what they had to do.

Many successful people stress the importance of action in achieving success.

Michael Masterson of the Ezine “Early to Rise” writes:”Action is the key to success, and failure to act is the reason most people will never achieve the kind of success they dream about”

Another approach to achieving success is to stay cool about it. Just get on with doing what you think is important and what you love to do.

“Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.” Sir David Frost

Elvis Presley gave his cousin Donna some advice to help her achieve her goals for the future. It seems good advice to me:

Donna’s best memory of Elvis was when she was 18 and she spoke to him one on one. He asked her about her plans for the future and told her she could achieve anything she wanted “so long as you have faith in God;have faith in yourself; work hard and never let anyone tell you, you can’t do something”.

Elvis himself had plenty of discouragement which he successfully ignored. The later part of his life was not too successful but as Donna commented, we should focus on what he did achieve which was amazing.

Peter Vidmar explains how he achieved success at the Olympic Games:

“There’s only two things I had to do to win the Olympic gold: Train when I wanted to, and train when I didn’t.”

This is possibly my favourite quote of all time. It sums up the essence of success and the will power and discipline necessary to achieve it. Sometimes training will be easy but sometimes it will take effort because one really does not feel like training. This is simple and beautifully easy to understand.

Another quote I like is concerned with the kind of success which depends on people liking your work or product. Don’t worry about whether they will like your work. Just do your best and leave the liking or disliking up to them.

“Success has a simple formula: ‘Do your best and people may like it’”.

Sam Ewing

Any success involves some kind of cost; usually some boring work is involved as suggested in the following quote. The word ‘drudgery’ sums this kind of work up exactly. Almost any kind of business involves marketing and marketing is the last thing many businessmen enjoy doing.

“Success is the child of drudgery and perseverance. It cannot be coaxed or bribed; pay the price and it is yours”.

Orison Swett Marden, 1850-1924.

Mike Litman comes up with golden statements frequently. Here is just one of them:

“The biggest secret of success in life is: You don’t have to get it right; you just have to get it going. Perfectionism can kill success. We never get going because we are always waiting to get everything just right. Instead, let’s get going.”

One success breeds another. Bobby Robson, now over 70, is one of Britain’s most successful managers. He should know what creates success. He recently commented about his team’s performances:

“Success breeds success”

This makes sense. Write one successful book and you will have the confidence to write another. A lady over 70 wrote a book about overcoming the pain of arthritis. It was a huge success to her total amazement and made hundreds of thousands of dollars. Not surprisingly she has now written two more books.

Success is a key goal for most people but it helps to have a clear idea of what success means to you. I hope this article will have shed some light on possible definitions of success and provided some ideas about how you can achieve your kind of success.

About the Author
John Watson is an info publisher on the internet and a martial arts school owner. He taught Religious Studies and Life Skills to teenagers in London schools for about 33 years before retiring in 2000 A.D. His own e-books and those of the English multimillionaire, Stuart Goldsmith, can be found on his site at http://www.motivationtoday.com

Perfectionism Preempts Progress, Peace, & Pleasure

Tuesday, July 1st, 2008

In the drive to success, it can be easy to forget your purpose. We seem to get so wrapped-up in keeping-up that we forget the real reason for waking-up. Life has only one purpose; and that purpose is LIFE. In life, we can choose between progress and stagnation, peace and war; and we can choose pleasure or suffering. But choices these are; and a choice must be made. Not choosing is still a choice.

But many choices are delayed, avoided, or not made at all, because things weren’t “just right.” Perfectionism is a kind of procrastination; and we procrastinate to avoid things. Perfectionism isn’t based on “joyful expression of one’s talents and gifts;” perfectionism is the constant search for, and focusing on, what is missing, or what “still isn’t right.” Perfectionism is poison to the soul; and it is the opponent of progress, growth, and true joy.

Purposeful expression, art, and creativity, are blissful experiences found by few, but imitated by many. The artist/creator/innovator is pulled and driven by a deep love, or a deep need to express a specific thing – not a “fiddled-with” representation of the initial inspiration. The artist/creator/innovator gives no audience to critics; as critics and nay-sayers are rarely key elements in progress, and more often than not they serve merely as distracting, disheartening, discouraging, bystanders – hecklers, if you will.

Perfectionists, on the other hand, spend all their time thinking about “the critics;” they themselves being their biggest critics of all. Every move a perfectionist makes is based on the outcome – the product that will be “judged.” What begins as inspiration becomes a chore. The journey is arduous; and the creative process is painful as well – like a long, drawn-out labor and complicated childbirth versus a quick and effortless delivery. The adventurer lives for the journey; and, as such, is always experiencing progress – always living on purpose. The perfectionist is afraid of what lies ahead – putting off the inevitable until they are as prepared as humanly possible.

Inside every perfectionist there is a creator yearning to express itself without the restraints of fears and limiting beliefs; listen to that voice. Go for it; express your true self. Go with what you know; and, if at first you don’t “succeed,” take the feedback you have “successfully” gathered, and try again – and repeat as long as you are having fun and enjoying what you are doing. Great joy, like great innovation, is rarely the product of great worrying. You can’t be at peace, or having fun, while you’re worrying about outcomes.

About The Author
Pete Koerner, author of The Belief Formula

http://www.ExploreExpandEvolve.com

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Celebrating Success

Tuesday, June 17th, 2008

In today’s world we get so caught up in our day to day activities and the routines of life we have a tendency to overlook all the success we have each day. We tend to view success as only a few significant events in our life such as graduating from college, getting married, our first job, our first child, our first big promotion. What happens when we achieve these goals? Or even worse what happens if we don’t achieve any or some of these events?

Does this mean we aren’t successful or we are done being successful? All too often it does. The good news is this does not need to be the case and the reality is we experience success every day of our lives we just forget to celebrate this success. Because many of our day to day successes aren’t marked with a big celebration they seem to loose their value.

We do a disservice to these events and ourselves by allowing this happen. We also create feelings of failure and lack of success by not truly recognizing all that we do each day that helps to make us happy and successful. We also risk loosing momentum towards larger success by giving up on all the little steps necessary by not putting value on them.

When we put value and recognize the little progress we make each day towards our larger goal we stay more motivated and on track to ensure we achieve our fullest potential. If you want to run a marathon you don’t just go out that day and run 26 miles. If you want to be a tremendous success in business you don’t just wake up one morning and are running a $500 million company.

Whatever you are looking to achieve in life the steps along the way and the overall mindset of success are critical. We need to celebrate each days success and build on it for the next day and begin to create a true mindset of success. We need to start thinking of ourselves as successful and then live into that reality. We do create our own reality and by thinking we are a success or thinking we are not that is exactly what we are.

I know all of this sounds great on paper and seems easy to do but how do we implement it into our lives and how do we make both the celebration and the act itself a habit thus ensuring greater success? The good news is that is the easy part we just need to be diligent in our efforts. The easiest way to start is to spend a few moments at the end of each day and write down 3-5 successes you had that day. You may be saying to yourself I don’t have that many successes each day. First that is probably not true, you just aren’t recognizing everything as a success.

Second the number doesn’t really matter the habit of spending some time each day and recognizing even a few events that were a success each day will build and before you know it you will have more. The number will also grow because you know at the end of each day you will be holding yourself accountable for your accomplishments. In addition you can start small and watch the list grow and expand in depth. Let me give a few examples that may help you get started: I got of the house by 7:30 am to be at the office on time, I committed to being at my sons/daughters baseball game and I made it, I ran 3 miles today, I did my morning walk, I finished the report for work, I followed up with my large account today, I didn’t eat that donut that was in the coffee break room in the office.

As you can see you can use many different aspects of your life to gauge your little daily successes. You can include work, family, personal, health, business, spiritual whatever you feel you wanted to achieve in a given day and were successful in accomplishing that is a success.

Success is a habit and by realizing just how successful we are each day in our lives we realize just how successful we are as individuals and start forming that habit. Good luck each day and congratulations on your success.

About The Author
Jeffrey Thomson is a mentor and business coach with and building a successful online business. I am student of personal development and truly believe that our inner world creates our outer world and by building and maintaining a positive mindset we can create our own level of success.

How to Know If Your Breakthrough is Imminent?

Thursday, June 5th, 2008

How do we know that our breakthrough is near?

Achieving success in life is almost down to a science now. We know what we need to do attain our goals and live the life of our dreams. However the road is usually not easy and things don’t always go as planned. All these difficulties cause many people to give up thinking they will never get to their destination.

It is estimated that most of those who give up do so just before their breakthrough. They had already covered 90% of the journey, and all that was left is a 10%. However those people didn’t know that. If they had known, they might have continued on.

 In his book “Think and Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill makes reference to a man called R. U. Darby and his Uncle who went drilling for gold. When they couldn’t find the gold deposits they gave up. However not long after they gave up, gold was discovered just three feet from where the Darbys had stopped. So is there a way to figure out if your success is imminent or is there no way to tell? To answer this question I have done a bit of research. I have looked at the lives of very successful people to see if there was some kind of pattern that I could discern. And what I found is not what you would expect.

What I found is that in most cases just before people got their breakthrough things got worse. People started to experience all kinds of crisis. Sometimes there were multiple crises. These are things that will make you question your sanity and will challenge your very fabric. And this is unfortunately where many fail the test. Those who are millionaires and billionaires today know what I’m talking about. They faced periods of upheaval in their lives and stuck through it. At this time it may seem like everything is turning against you.

Your family may turn against you. You may be accused of being selfish, of only thinking about yourself. The weather may turn against you; equipment that is normally reliable may suddenly start to malfunction. But this is the time when something called “faith” is required. Faith is the evidence of things not seen, of things hoped for. The Bible calls Abraham the called the father of Faith, because he is the first person who is recorded as having shown faith. What did Abraham do? He trusted God to give him a son, even though he and his wife were very old and therefore beyond the age of childbirth.

Abraham later followed the instruction of God to sacrifice his son, the very son that God gave him in a miraculous way. This didn’t make any sense, but still Abraham obeyed, trusting that God knew what he was doing and would somehow offer a way out. Indeed, God provided a way out. He called Abraham just before he killed his son and offering him a ram to be sacrificed instead.

Not many people know this but before Bill Gates got the big breakthrough that made him a household name, he was actually struggling financially. It was a contract by IBM, the world’s first PC maker that saved him. Others faced rejection. The founder of Hotmail Sabeer Bathia was rejected by 19 Venture Capitalists before he found someone who saw the potential of their idea agreed to support it.

On his non-stop around the world airplane flight Steve Fosset’s instruments indicated that he had too little fuel and would not make it to the finish line. He chose not to trust the instruments and to trust his instincts instead. He made it to the end with the fuel that he had. Non-stop around the world balloonists, Brian Jones and Bertrand Piccard, also experienced instrument malfunctions as well as difficult officials in China and India who threatened to refuse them entry into their respective countries. Their instruments also malfunctioned, indicating that they wouldn’t make it to their end destination with the fuel they had. They continued, trusting their gut instead, and became the first people to circumvent the globe non-stop in a balloon. I can give you many more examples of people who had some “impossible” odds against them, yet kept a cool head and made it, in spite of.

So how will you know if your breakthrough is imminent? Look at the things that are happening in your life. Are they getting worse without any seeming cause? Are people going out of their way to make things difficult for you?

Your breakthrough may be just around the corner. So instead of giving up and becoming bitter towards what is happening in your life, accept “what is” and move forward. Forgive those who harmed you or made things difficult for you. Keep on doing the things that you know will bring you the success you crave and before you know it, it will be there.

You Can Become Something, Even If You Have Nothing Now!

Saturday, May 24th, 2008

A lot of people would say, “they must have had something.” Yes, they had something. They had their talent and their gifts as everyone else has, but not much else.

I guess it is hard for some people to accept that somebody who was probably worse off then themselves could go and make their dreams come true. However, it is a fact that some people really had nothing, apart from their talent or gift, yet made it.

One such family were the Judds. Today, country singer Naomi Judd and daughters Wynonna and Ashley are known all over the world and have thousands of fans, but few knew their struggles before they became famous.

I heard about these struggles for the first time when Wynonna Judd appeared on CNN’s Larry King over the weekend, to talk about their lives. About how they were on welfare and didn’t even had a telephone or a television, when they were young.

However in spite of such impossible odds Naomi and Wynonna became major country music stars. Little sister Ashley Judd is a major Hollywood actress.

If you don’t know anything about being on welfare. It means, being at the very bottom of the social ladder. If you have a television and a telephone in your house, you have something they never had, so be grateful for what you have and make the most of it.

How to Go on, When the Going Gets Rough!

Monday, May 19th, 2008

There has never been a more opportune time to follow your heart and realize your dreams. However getting to the pot of gold is not always easy. It takes dedication, commitment and the willingness to do whatever it takes.

So how do you go on when the going gets tough. When you have dug and toiled, day after day, week after week, and you experience all kinds of disappointments and frustrations.

When you have used the best scientific data, indicating the best locations to dig and are still not finding the rich deposit, which you know is there somewhere. Or when you have developed the best looking website, developed the best product and what you think is the best sales copy, and you still fail to make the sales that you know should follow?

Do you say it is not working and give up, like the gold prospector in Napoleon Hill’s classic “think and grow rich”, who stopped just 3 feet from his pot of gold?

What do you do when everything you know, doesn’t seem to work?

The best thing to do is to take time out and become still. Yes, stop toiling for a while and make some quiet time, because its no use just hammering away if you are hitting at the wrong place.

The quiet time will help you reflect on what you have done so far and gain some new perspective. Take a book that has inspired you countless times or the Bible and read.

Don’t put pressure on yourself trying to find an answer, just let yourself go, any whichever way and the answers will come.

Take a piece of paper and just write. What about? Anything really. You can write about the confusion you feel.

Talk to yourself, not negative stuff that will make you feel worse then you already do, but tell yourself that you are getting the answers you are looking for. Don’t talk as someone who is without hope but talk like someone who knows its only a matter of time.

Most importantly though, listen to yourself, and then try again using some of the new insights you have gained from your inner person, your subconscious.

Sometimes, you’re at the right place, you just need to go 3 feet further down or 3 feet to the left, or right. Or sometimes the time just isn’t right and you just need to wait a little while longer.

But these are things no scientific data will ever tell you. This is something which comes from inside you, your subconscious mind which knows everything. That is why it is important to take time out and listen, because if you don’t you may just miss the key you need and waste an awful lot of time and money.

Here’s something else you can do. Every time you feel discouraged or a little afraid, go and read about your icons or heroes. How they started out. How they felt, when they were still at the bottom, the things they said and did when it really got rough, and be inspired. If possible try and trace a childhood friend of your heroes and talk to them.

In his classic, “Think and Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill describes how his subjects held imaginary conversations with great men who went before them. The result was that afterwards they became more inspired.

Imagine having an intimate, one on one conversation with Bill Gates or Henry Ford, and asking them all the questions you’ve always wanted to ask them.

It would be awesome wouldn’t it. When you come out of there you will be so focused on your goal that nothing anybody say will discourage you.

Something else you should do is to continuously remind yourself that everybody who is now successful, was once at the very place where you are now. The important thing is that they didn’t remain there.

If you are serious about attaining your goals you will also not remain there. But remember, it requires commitment and dedication even through the tough times.

Oh, how sweet it is to hold that prize after all the struggling. That’s when you realize all the trials and tribulations were worth it. But you will never savor that experience, you will never know how good it feels when you give up.