How many times have you wanted to do something and delay it and perhaps eventually not do it at all just because it wasn’t perfect? Wanting things to be perfect before we do it everytime is one of the biggest reasons why we never get started in the first place. And what it does is that it kills our dreams in the starting blocks before they even had half a chance. Just consider where you could’ve been if you had just taken that chance. What would you have achieved if you had just gone ahead and did that thing you wanted to do even though it looked like it might not succeed.So what is it with this perfection thing… Why do we want things to be perfect, and why can’t we seem to get over it?Wanting things to be perfect comes from our fear of failure and fear of embarrasment and humiliation. We believe if things are perfect when we start, people will somehow like us and we will not make mistakes.However, those of us who think that way don’t realize that failing and mistakes is part of what makes us human. We’re not perfect beings and God never intended for us to be that way. Making mistakes is necessary part of living and growing. It is through making mistakes that we learn what works and what doesn’t and that we don’t after all like what we think we did. And in the process we learn to know parts of ourselves that we otherwise would never have known. So forget about making mistakes and just start doing what you feel like doing. Who knows where it will take you and what new and wonderful worlds you’ll discover.
Archive for February, 2009
Perfection is the enemy of success
Saturday, February 28th, 2009Law Of Attraction: Money And Flow
Monday, February 16th, 2009I’ve listened to Abraham tapes for over twelve years now. Before that, I worked with Gay and Katie Hendricks for years using their Quantum Therapy practices designed to release unconscious blocks to abundance and joy in every area of life. I’ve watched “The Secret.” And now, since starting this blog last month and wanting to find out what’s out there on this subject, I’m discovering whole blogs that focus on how to create money with the Law Of Attraction. As a student of Life, I am curious about how others use LOA, interpret it, incorporate it on a day to day basis. These reflections and mirrors are some of the ways I use to learn about myself.
I guess I’ve been using Law Of Attraction to do just that- create money. I created a livelihood for myself that “shouldn’t” have worked out for me for a variety of reasons. But when I look more deeply as to how I’ve used Law Of Attraction as it pertains to money, I think I’ve been using it backwards from how I’m hearing it used these days (which doesn’s surprise me in the least, because I do most things backwards).
Money is a symbolic expression of energy. We assign arbitrary value to things and jobs based on a number of factors having to do with economics and the belief systems that created them. I don’t care to waste much space on here talking about them right now. To me, our world economy is all illusion, a co-creation that we continue to support and perpetuate.* And if you don’t believe that, go learn how the really really beyond rich people use money. It’s surreal…but I digress….
My Life Intention is to be connected to Inner Source, be connected to joy, love, happiness and flow, The All. It is everything for me and has been at the base of everything I have done my whole life. Money has been more of a barometer for me, an energetic measure of how I was doing internally with with this intention. Money is one tangible expression of my vibration in all things rather than the reason for lining my energy up.
What’s important to me is not to be rich just for the sake of being rich. Or that money isn’t flowing so that means I’m poor and can’t buy a designer handbag. It’s that IF having money is important to me and if I don’t have the amount I want, what is this telling me about myself, my relationship with my higher self and my connection to The All? Where am I not feeling worthy? Why would I create lack….what are those beliefs? Why would I hold myself back from the life I want and envision? What am I afraid of?
I know that Abraham talks about not having to understand all this stuff, not having to know the why’s of things to change. I also know I am who I am, and part of how I soothe and realign myself is by conscious self talk to remind myself that I don’t have to hold onto a particular belief because it’s not true. For me, and only me, bringing those beliefs into the light helps me let them go and believe something new. If I don’t deal with the unconscious “stuff” I’m not starting “where I am.” I’m just putting a smile on my face and pushing all that unconscious stuff down. If I’ve learned anything in the practical application of LOA and watching my outer world responses to my inner world, it’s that when I finally and fully embrace where I am right now, I move through this manifestation to what’s on the other side.
I’ve watched money come and go repeatedly over these years. I can say with certainty that every time I get afraid and worry, fret, or question life and myself, my financial situation reflects that back. Every time I’ve made a quantum leap in trusting that all is well, no matter what it looks like on the outside, my financial situation reflects that back to me in unexpected, magical ways.
So I continue to look at money as a Teacher for me, something which informs me of my energetic alignment with my Higher Self, letting me know when and where I want to trust more. No judgment– it just is what it is. In the end, through the different cycles, I have learned that if I discover what it is that holds me back from everything I want and work it through, return to trust in life’s ebbs and flows, that I can learn to feel OK again, even though nothing has changed in my outer world. I let go, bask and give thanks for the abundance I know is mine, the abundance that is right in front of me, if even temporarily forgotten.
This article was originally published on this website My Secret Spiritual Dance
Is there something like being too grateful?
Saturday, February 14th, 2009I remember a time when someone would do something for me, and I would be so grateful that I would thank them over and over. I’d sort of feel guilty that they would do something for me.
Later I realized why I acted that way and why I felt that guilt.
It is because I felt unworthy. I felt unworthy of receiving the thing I was given. And that is why I would thank that person over and over.
Now this is not, only bad for you, it is also bad for the person who gives the gift. People don’t want you to be like that. Its ok to say thank you and move on or to show your gratitude in other ways. Anything more than that becomes an exercise that can be described as wallowing in your unworthiness.
Now that I look back at that time I realized that this is one of the reasons why I could never succeed, no matter what I tried. If you want to succeed, you have to BECOME a SUCCESSFUL PERSON.
Successful people beieve in themselves. They don’t let anything hold them down. They declare that they are worthy and they are aware of their worthiness and they act in ways that show they are worthy. Of course they are grateful for what they have, but they don’t get stuck in it.
People love others who are confident, and who know what they want. They don’t like people who beg or act in other ways that show they are unsure of themselves.
Many people thing that you have to have money or be related to someone rich or famous to be worthy. It is not so. Worthiness is something that YOU ARE! You don’t receive it from somewhere outside of you or because of your association to something or someone.
You cannot give away what you don’t have. You cannot be happy or make others happy without without feeling worthy.
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Why Do We Have to Struggle to Get Money?
Thursday, February 5th, 2009Having money represents a struggle for most people. When they think of money they inevitably think of struggle. If you have a negative feeling about something you’ll not enjoy it and you’ll subsequently not succeed with it.
I have learned that the way we view something plays a big, big role in determining whether we will have more of that thing or not. If you associate money with struggle, then I can assure you, you will have a hard time attracting money.
You’ll always find yourself having to struggle first before you get even a little bit of it.
And then there are those people who don’t struggle, yet they get money. But get this, the fact that they don’t struggle doesn’t mean that they don’t put in some type of effort.
You cannot have money without putting in some type of effort. Even if you win the lottery you have to put in an effort (buy the ticket, watch the results and if you’ve won, call the hotline and claim your winnings).
The difference between struggle and effort is, the one is forced, and the other is done with joy, excitement and pleasure.
All the people in the world who are rich today had to put in some type of effort. What unlocked the doors to wealth for them is “the joy” they put into that effort.
So, if you are reading this and you haven’t made it yet. You can make it, but not through struggle. You can make it by putting joy into your effort.
So the answer to my question, “why do we have to struggle to get money” is. We don’t have to struggle. We just have to put in an effort.
Why do we have to put in an effort at all? Apart from the fact that, this is just the way it is; it builds your capacity.
I can tell you what to do, but it is only by doing it that you really get it. Knowing how to do something not only gives you skill, it gives you confidence, it gives you power, it gives you money.
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Walking a New Road
Monday, February 2nd, 2009Here is a good question to ask yourself. Ten years from now you will surely arrive. The question is, where? We don’t want to kid ourselves about where; we don’t want to kid ourselves about the road we’re walking.
At age 25, I had a day shortly after I met Mr. Schoaff called “do not kid myself anymore” day. I didn’t want to be disillusioned anymore. Up until then, I had been using the crossed-finger theory. But after meeting Mr. Schoaff, I finally decided that the crossed-finger theory was not going to get me what I wanted. That it wasn’t where the treasure lies. That I was going to have to make sure which way I was headed
Then, with the help of Mr. Schoaff, I found with a few reading disciplines, and a few disciplines of mind, and a few disciplines of activity, that when exercised, can begin making all the difference in the world as to where you will arrive.
Just a few changes. Sometimes we get the idea that we’re doing about 10% and there’s about 90% more that we need in order to make the difference for our fortune but probably the opposite is true. We’re doing enough things to have bought and shared in the good life so far. And maybe all we need is that extra 5% or 10% of intellectual change. Activity change. A refinement of discipline. A refinement of thought. And all we need is the ideas to make those simple changes and the equity starts gathering in one year, three years, five years, ten years.
I have a good comment for you: Now’s the time to fix the next 10 years. Now, you may have to come to grips with reality and with truth; that’s what was good for me when I met Mr. Schoaff, I was 25 years old, he was 44 years old. And he brought me a wealth of experience and he started asking me the tough questions. “Big question”, he said, “Are you reading the books that are going to take you where you want to go in the next 5 years?”
Excellent question. See, you want to make sure. I would assume for all of you, to get to where you want to be in the next 5 years, you are either reading the right books or you’re not. You’re either engaged in the disciplines or you’re not. But, here’s what we don’t want to engage in: disillusion. Hoping without acting. Wishing without doing.
The key is to take a look and say, “Where am I? What could I do to make the changes to make sure that I can take more certain daily steps toward the treasure I want, the mental treasure, the personal treasure, the spiritual treasure, the financial treasure? I don’t want to make any more errors, now’s the time to adjust my daily program to take me where I want to go.”
In lecturing the last 39 years, I’ve gotten letters and personal testimonies of people that have done such remarkable things with just a few suggestions. And that is why seminars, tapes and books can be so valuable. Here’s a key idea for us all to remember: We could all use a little coaching. When you’re playing the game, it’s sometimes hard to see it all.
But the key is to start right now making these changes to walk this new road. And here’s what’s exciting to me, just a few daily disciplines makes a great deal of difference in one year, three years, five years. And before you know it, you will be walking a brand new road.
To Your Success,
Jim Rohn
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